How to find the perfect gift

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One of the most important topics, when considering the art of giving gifts, is how to find the perfect gift.  This article is one of a pair of articles based on this theme.  The other article looks at how to know what gifts will have meaning.  There is some overlap, but together they should help you understand how to know what makes a perfect gift.

We all want our gifts to put a wonderful smile on our loved ones.  Sometime, however, we just don’t have time to investigate what the recipient wants.  There are also many reasons why we give gifts.  From the pure love of giving to, say, just going through the motions because it is expected.  In some cases, we may just want to get the whole experience out of the way, like a tick-box exercise.  Regardless of the reason, we invariably want the recipient to love the gift, which makes the giving even better.  Whatever the reason, the thrill of knowing we have brightened up someone’s day, is as fulfilling for the giver as it is for the receiver.

So, what is the first step to finding the perfect gift?  

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Well, it will come as no surprise to anyone that if you want to find the perfect gift for someone, you must take time to make sure the gift touches multiple points for the recipient.  It is not just that you demonstrate you have given some thought and time to finding the gift and,

therefore, you:

  • Understand the recipient well enough to know that this gift is right for them.
  • Have made the time to purchase the gift.

It is that the gift touches several key emotional aspects.  We can all be lucky and find the occasional perfect gift, but if you want to be consistent and be known as the person who can always find the best gifts, you need to know how to identify the emotional triggers in people.  There is an art to finding the perfect gift, but the approach will change depending on how much time you have to invest in developing your skills.

Finding the Perfect Gift

Luckily, there are several ways, depending on how much time you have, so if you think your work schedule prevents you from consistently finding perfect gifts, think again.

Finding a Perfect Gift If You Have Time

great gift ideas - girl interested in photographyIf you have time, get to know the person better:

  • Learn what their interests, their hopes, their dreams might be?
  • Find out what makes them laugh or cry, or what makes them happy or angry?
  • How do they show their affection for others? Do they always buy gifts, do favours, make a point of thanking them or do they give lots of hugs?
  • Try to work out how they demonstrate love, as this will tell you a lot about the types of gifts they will truly appreciate.  There are 5 of them:  words of affirmation, quality time, acts of service, physical touch and physical gifts.  Check out my blog on How Do You know What Gifts Will Have Meaning?great gift ideas overloading a wardrobe

The answers to these questions, will help you understand them better.  Next consider what type of gift they would like:

  • Would they prefer a practical item or a frivolous item?
  • A physical thing or an experience?

It is important to understand the impact the gift will have and how your loved one will interpret the gift. Do not over think the process, this isn’t an exercise in logic; it is about empathy, about how receiving the gift will make your loved ones feel.  Approach it from their point of view, not yours.  For example, if you are going to buy your loved one a physical present, consider where they could keep it?  If it is an experience, what makes you think this is their thing and not your?

Finding a Perfect Gift When You Don’t Have Any Time

If you do not have the time, there is another way.  In a busy World, doing the right level of research needed to find the best gift may not always be easy.  We can’t all spend as much time with our loved ones as we would want; you may not understand their interests and desires or what they want or have the time and money to buy the item.  It may be  you do not know the size or colour that they want.

great gifts for her - picture of girl signing OKLuckily, even if your busy life means you don’t have the time and effort required, you can do something wonderful for your loved one.  I have listed some approaches, but these are in reverse order of preference:

  • Ask someone else: This is clearly an option, but it suggests that other people have the time and, remember, they also want to get the perfect gift.
  • Ask the recipient: Have you had that done to you?  What does that say? ‘I don’t know you well enough or I can’t be bothered’.  Giving a gift just became a problem for both of you and how are you going to make it a surprise?
  • Give money or a voucher: Unless the cheque is big, a gift of money is seldom memorable.  Think to your own experience.  I have been given money in the past and I can’t think what I did with it.
  • You can do the research: Spend time with the recipient.  Get to know them better, all over again.  Lovely option if you can, but maybe you just don’t have the time.
  • Use a wish list: I know I am bias, but this is a perfect compromise. You can find out what the recipient wants and you can choose from a range of goods, to meet your price range. A wish list can also be used for inspiration, so you can make it even more of a surprise.

Wish List

wish list gift idesA wish list provides a great way of quickly finding the perfect gift to brighten up someone’s day, without it needing to take a huge amount of research.  What is also great is that you get gifts that are wanted.  No more soaps on a rope or underpants that are  too big.  You can ask for, say, a Travisher, and you don’t even have to explain what it is and why you want it.  Win-win!  If you and all your loved ones have wish lists, you have all just made every ones’ life just a little easier.  If you do decide to use a wish list, look to use a universal wish list, like  Universal wish lists mean that they can be used across multiple sites, so if you want to have items from different stores, but don’t want to have to register every time and share multiple wish lists, this is the way to go.  To learn more about managing a wish list, check out the article on the 12 Essential Tips to Managing a Birthday Wish List.

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I hope you found this article useful, check out the other article on how to know what gifts will have meaning.  Let me know what you thought and if you have any other ideas.  Try out and tell me what you think and if it has made finding the perfect gift easier.  It is still a relatively new site and I have some ideas to make it better. I would, however, love to hear from you on what you want from a universal wish list site.

Stay Well and Happy Gifting



Happy Gifting, In Friendship


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